5 Tips to Host the Perfect Wintertime Gathering Between Holidays

Since many of your friends or relatives are most likely already committed to traveling to a certain relative’s house for holiday-oriented events, or hosting a dinner or get-together of their own, pressure is often high to attend multiple events on the same day, the “right” day – i.e. Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve, etc.

Opening up the calendar to allow for less formal wintertime get-togethers helps to create new traditions, and allows for a more flexible schedule.

This also gives your guests an opportunity to relax!

If they’ve been spending the majority of their time playing host, surviving the twists and turns of the holiday season, or worrying about whether or not they’ve prepped correctly to meet the dress code, chances are they could use a break.

Ready to set up the buffet table, prep some winter-themed goodies in the kitchen, and dim the Christmas lights?

Here are my five tips:

1. Be Flexible with the Invite List, within Reason

If your goal is to have a fun and festive time with a bunch of friends and loved ones, they might be more excited to come to your event if their siblings/children/roommates/significant others are invited to tag along.

Keep in mind: it’s likely that your event will be well attended, barring an unforeseen snowstorm, since most if not all of the people on your guest list will already be on vacation or will at least have some down time from work.

If this scares you, be casual with the invites and don’t be afraid to send them out last minute.

If alone time with a core group of friends is what you’re really after, or if you can’t imagine a relaxing get-together that’s packed with kids, don’t be afraid to say so.

Though an open-door policy is nice, a kid-free cocktail-fueled dance party might be even better.

And maybe Grandma will even volunteer to babysit!

2. Have Fun with the Menu

Since the goal here is spending time with the people you care about – plus enjoying some delicious food! – it’s best to stick to a simple menu and fill in with extras.

Maybe your aunt is overloaded with Christmas candy that she received from coworkers, or your dad overdid it this year in the cookie baking department.

Sounds like an excellent spread for the potluck dessert table at your gathering!

And because the menu is going to be super casual, you might find yourself with some free time on your hands leading up to the party. If that’s the case, now is the perfect opportunity to go against all of that tried-and-true party-hosting advice.

How? By breaking out an unfamiliar recipe or two that you’ve been dying to try!

At best, you’ll have something new and exciting to surprise your guests with, but the experiment won’t be crucial to your event’s menu if it’s a total flop.

Lots of people like to host Thanksgiving leftover parties to not let anything go to waste, or cook up a big pot of chili for Super Bowl Sunday.

My advice is to look to those types of events for inspiration and then throw in a special surprise or two, like homemade mulled wine or homemade soft pretzels paired with wintry ales.

Make sure to check out our food inspirations for Christmas and New Year’s Eve dinners, too!

3. Let Guests Serve Themselves

So many of us are downright robbed of our agency at the holidays.

Evidence of this runs the gamut from our inability to convince our aunts and uncles that we no longer eat meat, or that we no longer belong at the kiddie table despite being in our 30’s, to that feeling you get when sitting down to yet another formal dinner, and facing yet another poorly cooked prime rib with a side of steamed green beans.

Counteract that familiar holiday feeling of desperation by putting yourself and your guests in control and avoid the sit-down formal meal at all costs!

Instead, serve some fun bites, indulging in childhood favorites and finger food.

For example, you can set up a buffet for your guests to create their own unique grilled cheese sandwiches. Plug in the panini maker and set out various types of bread, cheese, fruit, meat, and condiments.

You can also have a self-serve hot chocolate bar, with a big batch of hot cocoa surrounded by large bowlfuls of toppings like homemade marshmallows, mini chocolate chips, peppermint bark, caramel sauce, and a mini bottles of booze!

Now, that’s a party!

4. INCLUDE a Laid-Back Activity

At this point in the holiday season, many of your guests will have already socialized their brains out.

For some, this can be a good thing. But others are sick of explaining their latest project at work, or listening to a detailed account of an unpleasant medical procedure for the umpteenth time.

Take some of the pressure off by including a relaxing activity that emphasizes time spent together, with a different format than the usual conversation-fueled holiday meal or party. This could be:

• Watching a movie together, and serving snacks or an easy meal that’s tied to the holiday’s theme, or that appear in the film. Hey, “Home Alone” fans – mac and cheese, cheese pizza and ice cream? Sounds good to me!
• Dancing to – refreshingly non-holiday – jams, with a bowl of punch or bottled beers on a side table, and a few snacks to keep your energy up.
• Building snowmen in the backyard, followed by steaming cups of your favorite wintertime beverages to warm up.
• Baking cookies and making candy together.
• Playing a competitive sport such as sled racing or touch football, or playing cards, a board game, or video games, with or without corresponding snacks and beverages.

The point is simple: to relax and have fun without any social anxieties!

5. Don’t Be Afraid to Shut It Down

Sometimes, one of the best parts about hosting your own event is that you get to decide when it’s over.

Don’t be afraid to let guests know when it’s time to go home, either on the invitations themselves ahead of time, or whenever you’re ready to close up shop for the night.

Again, the goal here is to hold one of those casual events where the pressure is off and you’re free to relax and enjoy each other’s company, but not to the point where everybody has free reign of the fridge, your entire movie and photo collections have been spread throughout the living room, and you’re starting to wonder if your guests have actually decided to move in.

On the other hand, it’s also up to you to determine if a never-ending party is exactly what you’re after.

For many of us, the holiday season is a magical time when we get to see childhood and college friends, and distant relatives that we rarely get to see at any other time of year, barring a wedding or something of similar magnitude.

This is your opportunity to host a sleepover, complete with a pancake breakfast and real maple syrup the next morning. Go crazy!

It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. If you do go with this option, just be sure to let guests know to bring their pajamas and to make sleeping arrangements that fit your living space.

Speaking from Experience

In my own family, we’ve instituted an annual cookie baking party. Sure, we’ve only held this event once so far, during that lull between Christmas and New Year’s, but the likelihood of turning it into a family tradition seems high – at least so far!

One of my aunts is the host, since she has two ovens in her kitchen, and everyone is encouraged to bring the homemade cookie dough of their choosing, already prepped and ready for baking.

Takeout is ordered for dinner, in addition to all of those delicious cookies that everyone gets to sample.

And the party favors are built in with any remaining cookies, which everybody gets to bring back home.

Plus, there’s nothing like watching the football game together as a family – finally, something we can all agree on, or at least something other than politics and religion to argue about!

I’ve also hosted gatherings of family and friends a week or two before Christmas, on a weekend afternoon, with snacks and drinks provided.

Everyone gets to mingle and enjoy each other’s company, and this gives me a chance to socialize with everyone I care about, rather than seeing all of them separately.

I love exchanging Pollyanna/Secret Santa gifts and making foodie party favors, like homemade Nutella, maraschino cherries, pickled dilly beans, and spiced nuts for these kinds of things as well.

Again, this requires some advance planning and may be more stress-inducing than not for some. But for the Etsy and Pinterest lovers among us… this is what we live for!

We also hold an informal cookie bake-off competition at my mom’s house every year. It’s never planned for a specific day, but instead it happens more informally, sometime before Christmas and after I eventually roll into town.

It’s spontaneous, based on whenever we’ve made the effort to gather the requisite recipes and ingredients. And whoever is around is invited, including a few quick phone calls to anyone who is a short car ride away.

We listen to Christmas music, critique each other’s cookie prepping skills, share cookies with the neighbors, wrap last-minute presents, mix up cocktails for each other, and sometimes bake long into the night, with bakers drifting off to bed a few at a time, until all of the cookie batter is gone.

No Invitation Necessary

In the past couple of years, I’ve started collecting new cookie recipes for months before my wintertime vacation, and I send one to my mom every now and then.

Everything leads up to the day when we can finally all convene together, from family members who live thousands of miles away to next-door neighbors, to celebrate and relax.

I think it’s something that all of us look forward to.